Communication is the foundation for the relationship. Without really having a lot of connections – just imagine how futile we are to build a house for mercury rather than concrete. And through healthy, mutual communication, marriage or your relationship will develop in a positive direction.
Therefore, all of us need to understand the basics of communication so that we can apply them to the beloved relationships. These fundamentals can easily be lost and you can think about why your relationship is in trouble. The basics of communication:
Each conversation belongs to a speaker (the messaging person) is a student (recipient of the message). Each role requires different skills. An effective speaker, without the powerful listener, is like a desert bulletin board. Communication will cease if you (or your partner) do not use the various skills required for the speaker's and student role.
Let's look at the roles of each roles
The ABC of the Effective Speaker:
A: Acknowledgments Start with your needs.
As the speaker, the goal is to acknowledge your needs and share with your partners not to invest light on your partner. For example, if your partner is disappointed that he does not help around the house, he says, "I've done most of the cleaning and feel unfaithful to me. I need a team and work together around the house"  B: Body language Be aware of sending messages
All communications include (the content of the message) and how to do it (19459006) Body language is how it is – a gift of the message It is very often the message that your partner best remembers The tone and volume of voice, facial expression, eye contact, and posture increase or disable the message. like spam filters, if the body language broadcasts altruism, judgment, or hostility, your partner is likely to ignore the message.
C: Clarity Keep your message simple and consistent
Your message must be clear and easy to understand, or your partner may be confused and uncertain of your needs. Cleanness begins to know what you want to say before you say that. Leaving the subject and / or sending mixed messages violates the clarity rule. You will do everything in your power to stay in "task" while you are talking to your partner. How many people can understand a message if we are not sure what the message actually is, or if we feel that pop-ups are overwhelmed? ABC of Effective Listeners:
A: Attentiveness. Be considerate and focus your energy on your partner's messages.
As a student, it's your job to show you are interested in your partner. This is a good feeling (not answering the phone or checking emails as long as your partner is talking), as well as unspoken messages (eye contact, nod, standing, not tense) sent through body language. ] B: bite the tongue. Our student work to understand your partner's views.
There is a saying in the twelve-step treatment programs that is something like: Take the cotton out of your ear and put it in his mouth As a student, do not interrupt or talk to a conversation partner (even if you do not agree with what he says). Do not plan your refusal until your partner is talking. Work to be open and open instead of your partner's message to consider counter-arguments. C: Interestingness and Clarification Simple questions convey real interest while helping to be clear.
If it is appropriate (when your partner is not in the middle of the statement), it is a real curiosity to ask questions that will help clarify the needs of your partner. You do not need Dr. Phil to do this right. The strongest questions are simple: Are you okay? What can I do? How can I help you? When you are curious and interested, your partners will feel that you have occupied and are interested.
This simple ABC communication model can make a long way for a more effective communicator. For a stronger relationship, share these ideas with your partner. Practice the loudspeaker and the earpiece. Before you know ABC communication becomes customary and your relationship or marriage enjoys the benefits.