Have you ever been in a situation where you knew you had to talk to someone about a problem but you were terrified because you knew it was just a bigger problem? What would be the easiest way to communicate an effective language to deal with conflicts and human errors? By modeling light and openness in communication, we can easily express our thoughts and feelings without causing further anxiety and drama. This promotes personal attacks and defenses in dealing with conflicts.
"Invisible" communication preserves the clarity and purpose of our hidden communication to students. It brings us into confusion, distrust and obscurity. In order to build trust and strengthen the openness and quality of communication, it is essential that we remain as clear as possible. If this happens, you have the opportunity to have the best chance of success in interaction.
When we open the front door for communication, we have the chance to learn the great tools that make our communication style more visible and consistent. One such device is OTFD. OTFD is an effective skill that works with everyone; our family, our friends, our colleagues, even our children. It is an approach that quickly and effectively resolves conflicts and maintains student dignity while preventing emotional attack. Both parties can move and maintain a positive relationship through this communication technique. The OTFD, the open front door, the metaphor warns us that we can see the communication through the front door.
"O", which means Observation, allows us to tell the other person what happened to a factual on the wall so that both people start on the same page. – I noticed we should meet lunch at noon, and it's 12:45 now. It is a fact finding, not a judgment or a conclusion; merely data.
Then "T" is "Thoughts". Tell the person your thoughts and opinions using the "I" statements. "I think you might have missed the traffic or your phone was dead and you did not have the chance to know that you're going to be late." "F" means Feelings. Share your feelings, even in the form of "me". "I'm disappointed you did not let me be late."
The term "Desire" in "D" allows us to indicate our intent or to see the result. "I wish that in the future, if you're late, please let me know beforehand."
The beauty of the model is fine. Without OTFD, we generally hit all areas, but not in a way that the other person can hear.
At the beginning of the observation, communication gives the same starting point for both people, listening with an open eye. In the first step you can handle many misunderstandings. If you can not handle them in the first step, go through the OTFD process to make communication easier. Programs such as the Quantum Learning Network find that the extra moment of organizing our thoughts into this order slows us down to make each part more relaxed and easier to hear.
In addition to solving conflicts, the OTFD also works to show confirmations clearly and positively. "I noticed that you sent flowers to my office today and I think you were very nice because I felt and I would like our relationship to grow."
When we practice communication with OTFD, we can tell people more effectively how we feel and what we think about a particular situation without the communication process being personalized or attacking.