Do you remember the time you first met someone and just seem to click? They are immediately tied to each other, a moment of "love" or trust. We literally feel this connection!
This link is called Rapport! This is the basis and basis for every meaningful interaction between two and more people. The report is the environment of trust and understanding, respect for and respect for the world of another person. This allows a person the freedom to fully express their thoughts and feelings and know that you are respected and appreciated. Rapport creates the space for you to listen and respond, even if you disagree with what the other person says or does. Everyone appreciates the other's viewpoint and respects the model of the world. If you have a relationship with another person you will have the opportunity to enter your world and see things from your perspective, feel as you are, a better understanding of where they come from; and as a result it enhances the whole link.
The 1970 study by the University of Pennsylvania, Ray Birdwhistle, found that 93% of our communication was not verbally and unconscious. 55% of our communication is physiological or body language, 38% is tonality or HOW words say and only 7% is the content or words we want to choose.
Researchers at Boston University Medical School are conversational people. Researchers have noticed that people are talking (unconsciously) to coordinate their movements (including finger gestures, eyes flashing, and head nods). When observed with electroencephalograms they found some brainwave at the same moment. As conversations progressed, these people developed a deeper relationship with each other and did not even know what was happening here because we communicate with our ideas and concepts at the 93% UN conscious level but believe that the words we are talking about , in fact they carry our communication.
NLP Connectivity Skills teach us how to communicate on this unconscious level. Mirroring, matching, pacing, and leadership capabilities make it "similar to" the other person. Anthony Robbins stated, "People like each other when they tend to be like others." NLP teaches how to mirror and fit into 55% physiology, 38% tonality, and 7% predicates or words.
The key to establishing a relationship is the ability to penetrate the world of another person by assuming a similar state of mind. The first thing is to look better in the other person by mirroring and mirroring the person's behaviors – body language, voice, words, and so on. Correspondence and mirroring are an effective way to estimate how the other person sees / experiences the world.
Some people find that another person feels uncomfortable and feels that they are trying to deceive or exploit the other person. To overcome this uneasiness, find out that conciliation is a natural part of the rapport-building process and that you do it unconsciously with your close family and friends every day. Each day, you gradually increase your conscious use of the pace of matching, which is comfortable and ethical for you. Compliance with integrity and respect creates positive feelings and answers in you and in others. Rapport is the ability to enter someone else's world to feel that you understand him and that there is a strong relationship between you.
The following exercises aim at the core processes and modeling procedures. They focus primarily on the information gathering phase of the modeling process and cover a wide range of modeling skills, including "implicit" and "explicit" modeling, as well as multiple detection positions for gathering different types and levels of information for a given performance
Mirroring Practice  A mirroring method for building a strong "second position" with someone else. Basic skill to model another person and to create intuition based on the person's inner experience. To detect the effect and effects of the mirror, try the following exercise
1. Choose a contact or a person you want to talk to. Do not tell the person that he will reflect on the conversation.
2nd Enter a conversation with the person and inquire about different topics.
3rd As you speak, start gently reflecting the physiology of the other person (including the tone and the tempo). [Hint: This can be most easily done in the context of ‘active listening’; that is, reflecting back statements the person has made, by commenting, “So what you are saying is….”, and then stating your understanding of the person’s opinion.]
4. When fully reflected, he is sitting in the same posture using the same type of gestures, with the same speed and volume, and in a similar tone range as the other person. If you completely reflect the other person, you may be breathing the same speed and pattern as the other. Notice how it feels when you reach this depth link
. One way to try to measure your relationship is to express your second opinion on a few topics that you have not talked about with the second inventory. Reflection often comes to information that he unconsciously communicates and receives, and "absorbs" the information about the other person without knowing how he has acquired it. Therefore, mirroring is an effective tool for modeling.
6th To get a new feel for the effect of mirroring and matching on your interaction; try the other person, posture, gestures, tone and breathing. Both of you and your partner need to be shocked if you do this and you feel that your relationship quality has changed drastically
. Before you finish the conversation and tell your partner what you're doing, make sure you're back in touch again physically reflecting your partner.
One way to help develop relationships is to reflect the micro-behaviors we want to influence. All observable behaviors are reflected, for example:
Vocal qualities (volume, tonality, rhythm)
Keywords or predicates
Anything else you can observe …
To mirror another person, simply select the behavior or quality you want to reflect and then perform this behavior. If you decide to reflect the head's head when the head moves your head, wait for a few moments then move it to the same angle. The effect should be as if the other person looks in the mirror.
Raises your left hand (reflection) to your right hand to mirror a raised person. If you are the same person, raise your right hand (exactly the same as the other person). Some practitioners see the difference between mirroring and matching. For example, if someone talks with gestures while they talk, then you have to wait until your sequence is spoken before you make similar (fitting) gestures.
The fact that you have read it means that you can see the benefits of increasing rapport skills. Reading is not sad enough – practice is the key to building skill, including exercises. When you first start the mirroring practice, you may have to pay some conscious attention to what you are doing. After a while, however, you begin to do yourself unconsciously. This is where you really start to build an elegant relationship!
And in cases where a gesture idiosyncts the person or becomes obvious otherwise, he can switch over. I mean, if you set your glasses and you do not wear anything, just take your feet. If you cross the intersection / mirror, you customize / mirror part of the other body with the rest of your body. This is best when it suits someone's breathing rate. You can use your finger to keep pace with your breath rhythm. If someone tones or mirrors their voice, do so with tonality, volume, and speed. And do not forget that you do not have to do all these things, only one or two are enough to make the most of it.
Known communicators have a wide range of behaviors that they can mirror to build relationships. You can find a way to virtually observe anything you can observe. If this happens elegantly, the other person is aware of it.
o However, some caution notes are appropriate:
o Mirroring is not like mimicry.
o Delightful and respectful.
o Mirroring can lead to sharing the experience of another person.
o Avoid people with impatiently reflective or severe mental problems.
o Mirroring quickly establishes strong confidence in trust, so use it responsibly.
Practice your friends and family members to start and treat their posture, gestures, voices, and words. Have fun and notice when they start responding to the right one. Workplace or social events begin with a unique behavior, and whenever you feel comfortable and comfortable, get to another. With people who already have a sense of contact, notice how often they fit into their posture, gestures, sound, or words. This is because pairing and mirrors naturally come. You should then be able to connect to anyone at any moment and automatically become automatic when you deepen this relationship.
Reflects people's micro-behavior on television (chat shows and interviews are ideal). It may be surprised how fast it can make it comfortable while gently reflecting the behavior of others.
Choose a safe place to practice a mirror image of somebody else's behavioral elements. If he reflected them for a while and thought he was related to his person, he would scratch his nose. If they raise their hands over their faces within the next minute, they congratulate you – it has led you to behave!
Increase your behavior that you can reflect and deliberately create situations where you and others will be useful. Use common sense and choose low-risk situations to practice.)
During a conversation with another person; choose a pattern of behavior (eg respiration rate) with the passing of one of the behaviors (eg speech speed). Notice how fast the relationship is developing!
Assemblies have another excellent learning ability to maintain and deepen the relationship. If we talk to another person, regardless of whether they are business or personal, take the opportunity to tell the person the information they receive. This allows a person to know that he is listening and without understanding. It also allows you to share your understanding and / or ask for clarification.
The background material is the thread that tightens and deepens the relationship. Backtracking repeats its essence rather than literally what it wants to communicate. There are occasions when you step back and the other person adds or corrects it. Correction only strengthens the relationship because you will be redirected and the person really feels that you understand. There is also the possibility to fix it that loses the connection. However, losing the link as well as losing the balance. You stopped, you get back and you get in. If you lose contact, you will find a way to regain it. There are also times when someone "wants to get in touch."
For example, if it is not healthy to be surrounded by certain people, it is hostage or a cocktail party or effect. Usually, people think that rapport must be interrupted by humiliating or disagreeing. Although this may work, I recommend a derogation. It intentionally deviates posture, breathing, keywords / gestures and sound quality. Rely on diverting nonverbal communication and you will not have a relationship. For those who like experiments, try this: Strongly disagree and keep in touch. Or I completely agree to interrupt the relationship. And every experiment must be taken in a non-critical environment.
The key element in establishing, building, deepening, and maintaining connectivity is to be able to listen to responses received. Prerequisite for NLP or assumed rules; "Communication is the answer we give back, NOT our intent."
Finally; any technique behind the credibility and genuine concern of the other person should be behind. (See "Technicians Do Not Apply", an anchor 1987.) If you are exercising these abilities and have no real interest in the other person, the relationship will not develop. If you do not pay attention to the other, it does not matter how well you are in your NLP technique. This answers you get back and your own flexibility to hold the ultimate power to create, maintain, and deepen your relationship.